When we think of healing from an affair, we focus on the betrayal of the faithful partner. We rarely think of the unfaithful partner’s wounded mind. In fact, the unfaithful partner’s ability to recover from the affair is quite routinely ignored. And when it comes to women’s affairs? Well, there’s even less attention paid to healing for unfaithful women.
Are you facing an acute issue in your relationship? Not the occasional arguing. Not the odd bickering. I’m talking about the serious stuff. Perhaps you’re even considering divorce. Maybe you found out your partner had an affair. Or, possibly, you’ve tired of tolerating a sex-starved marriage. All of these circumstances are very painful, sensitive issues that couples sometimes have to manage.
Are you and your spouse equal partners in your relationship? Or has one of you become more of a parent to the other? Please keep reading.
Have you ever thought about who’s going to heal your pain after infidelity? Are you a hurt partner seeking therapy to get over your pain? Please keep reading.
When things are bad between you and your partner it may feel like you need to pray for divine intervention--a miracle-- to make things good again. Don’t fret! And don’t give up! What you really need is a relationship strategy. A strategy that will help you see your partner and your issues with fresh eyes. A strategy so effective it will feel like a miracle.
I hear too many disappointed couples sharing stories of how they “failed” therapy. Often, they share that they stopped counseling because there was no improvement in their situations.
This article is a must on your essential list of relationship resources. Why? Because when we mess up we whine. We pout. We dole out righteous indignation. Or we verbally punch back much too hard.
You’ve heard it before: “Once a cheater - always a cheater.” Maybe you’ve said it yourself a time or two. Yet now, as you struggle to cope with the aftermath of infidelity in your own relationship, you may be wondering if the saying applies to the person you love.
“I said I was sorry!” Tense and exhausted by the fallout of your unfaithfulness, you repeat your apologies. You’re likely anxious and upset, eager to recover and move on. Yet, the wounds of your partner remain open, the betrayal and all its consequences, remain unaddressed, and forgiveness remains out of reach. Why can’t you get past this? Why doesn’t “I’m sorry” work, no matter how much you say you are?
You know you love your partner. Whether you are at home cuddling on the couch or out for drinks with a couple of old friends, your love doesn’t change. Yet, your partner seems to feel cheated out of time with you when you’re not together. Have they expressed that he or she doesn’t feel like you are showing them enough care and appreciation?