Do you and your partner or spouse frequently have conversations that turn sour for seemingly no reason? Does it seem that arguments never get resolved, but instead fester between you, resurfacing in the form of harsh criticism and defensiveness?
Have you and your partner slowly drifted apart? It may seem that the passion you once shared has devolved until you almost feel more like acquaintances than a romantic pair.
Perhaps one of you feels like you are not being heard, validated or appreciated.
The loneliness and sense of inadequacy may be becoming overwhelming. And, maybe you or your partner are struggling with the aftermath of infidelity due to a revelation of an affair.
If you are trying to recover from an act of infidelity you may be wondering if your marriage can ever be healed. Perhaps the anger, resentment and grief are getting in the way of moving on, and you want help trusting again.
Or, maybe there hasn’t been a betrayal in your relationship, but you fear there could be.
No matter what you and your spouse or partner are facing
Would you like to learn how to communicate effectively with your partner?
Are you longing to strengthen your bond of intimacy and renew your marriage or relationship?
Fortunately, with the help of a skilled couples counselor dedicated to saving your relationship, you can rebuild your marriage, protect your relationship and enjoy greater intimacy.
The idea of a seamless marriage without conflict is the stuff of fairy tales. Any couple who has been together long enough can tell you that healthy relationships take work.
Unfortunately, a majority of us were never taught how to maintain a marriage, communicate effectively or resolve conflict peacefully. Those are skills that we manufacture along the way based on the examples we find in our personal lives. And a lot of times, those examples are flawed—those skills, misinformed.
According to Dr. John Gottman, an expert at the forefront of relationship dynamics, most couples wait approximately six years to address issues after they first arise.
The high demands of work, lack of personal time and the stress of balancing multiple social roles add a great deal of pressure to any relationship over time. As a result, the behaviors and subsequent damage becomes ingrained and all the more difficult to address.
In couples sessions, you and your partner can tackle tough issues and develop the tools, empathy and awareness you need to be a better partner. Therapy gives you a space to voice your feelings, find validation and resolve your conflict without spiraling into an argument.
If you are coming to me for help, it is likely because you are in a lot of pain and exhausted from trying to fix your relationship yourself. I understand that pain, the frustration of not being able to comprehend your partner’s behavior or step outside of a cycle of conflict.
With my help, we can get to the core of your problems and address them at the source.
You can understand the motivations for negative behavior cycles and develop strategies for improving communication skills and peaceful conflict resolution. And throughout the healing process, I will be there as a source of hope and empowerment, guiding you toward greater empathy, awareness and closeness.
Although there needs to be a change in your current situation, I strive to avoid assigning blame or judging anyone. My job is about fixing and improving your relationship, not pointing fingers. And, because I only treat a few select clients each week, you have the assurance that my dedication to your relationship is always a priority.
Our work together begins with a 90-minute intake session in which I get to learn about you as a couple. We’ll look at where you are in your relationship, the problems you’re facing and what you want to achieve through couples counseling, focusing on turning those hopes into action.
Afterward, I will assess your relationship using The Gottman Checkup, which is a full couple’s assessment. Using the results of the assessment as a compass, we’ll collaborate on creating a plan to heal your relationship and get you to where you want to be.
About midway through our sessions, we will do another assessment to make sure we are on the right path. We’ll look at how our sessions are working for you, what adjustments we may need to make and then, shift and adapt sessions as needed.
Toward the end of our time together, we can do an end-of-process assessment to verify that you have reached your goals. Some couples find additional sessions beneficial and others use my service as maintenance for their relationship. However, my goal is to give you the tools and knowledge to repair and maintain your relationship without me indefinitely.
If you are recovering from an affair, I can validate your pain and comfort you with the knowledge that healing from infidelity is a 3-phase process you can’t rush—and that trust is not something one earns or develops overnight.
We’ll draw upon the work of Esther Perel and Dr. Gottman to repair your sense of self, rebuild trust and heal the trauma of deep emotional scars.
The way I approach therapy is very different from the traditional talk therapy model. I have a very specific structure that incorporates exercises, action and tool development to actively resolve issues with the dynamics of your relationship.
Unlike ongoing venting sessions that leave couples feeling worse than when they arrived, you get to practice strategies and resolve your issues within the sessions themselves.
Having this first-hand experience of practicing and using these tools means you will have them at your disposal any time.
My couples therapy service is for those who have tried it all. You’ve likely tried fixing your relationship issues in many ways: you may have tried reading self-help books, being the agent of change on your own, and you may have even gone to other therapists——but nothing seems to work.
However, one thing is apparent: your commitment.
Using that commitment and my expertise, I can give you tools to help generate greater empathy and closeness. You can learn how to repair your sense of trust and communicate in a new way that will bring resolution to conflict without defensiveness and criticism.
If you and your partner both feel like it is truly over, I can still offer you honest and compassionate guidance and support as you both transition into a new stage of your relationship and life.
However, if you are on this page, there’s likely at least some small part of you that still believes in your relationship.
I will help you tap into that well of hope, doing all I can to help you and your partner preserve your connection. My goal is to give you effective and powerful guidance that you can use to sustainably enrich your relationship.
When we both began going to therapy sessions, Idit was unbiased in her questioning and helped us analyze our feelings, situation, and goals. She made us both feel that what we were feeling was important. She gave us several practical tools & guides.
We came with little hope that this will help save our marriage… Shockingly, after the first hour and a half with Idit, we were able to start changing as a couple. We started gaining back the lost respect we had for each-other which was the beginning of a turnaround for us after 7 years of marriage.