The roadmap that’s helped 100s of couples learn how to effectively express remorse and offer genuine forgiveness so they can begin trusting their partners again and bringing their relationships back from the brink.
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Forgiveness starts with remorse. This is going to be the cornerstone of your healthy recovery. By adopting my methods you’ll eliminate resentment and position yourself to end the crisis as quickly and effectively as possible so you can both move forward.
The Remorse Blueprint Includes:
The Remorse Expression video tutorial to show you the complete process
The downloadable Remorse Blueprint Guide to help you take action
“Fill-in-the-blank” example templates to craft your remorse message
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Progress they thought was impossible even though they were desperate to make their relationships and marriages work. And very often much quicker than they dared to hope!
More importantly, the Remorse Blueprint is one of the steps that empowers couples to feel a kind of hope and clarity in their relationship that they haven’t felt in a while. They often tell me it feels like they can finally see a light at the end of a long, dark, and painful tunnel!
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As a result of 1000s of hours of working with couples using this process in my own therapy practice, I have adapted the blueprint as an online resource that will help you achieve the same results my one-on-one clients experience. All at your own pace and from the comfort, safety, and privacy of your own home.
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THE FIRST STEP IS TO STOP APOLOGIZING
It’s okay, stick with me for a moment and I’ll explain exactly what I mean… Recovering from an affair involves forgiveness. And forgiveness always starts with an apology, right? But that forgiveness has to be earned and saying or hearing “I am sorry” isn’t enough to start that process.
Well you see, it’s all too common in this situation if you’re the hurt partner to either forgive too quickly or not forgive at all. If you forgive too quickly, you probably rushed through to this point just to feel some relief so you can move forward. But this will backfire when you realize that your quick and desperate “forgiveness” didn’t take away your festering resentment.
Looking into each other’s eyes and saying “I’m sorry” and “I forgive you” just isn’t enough.
On the flip side, If you don’t forgive at all, then how do you even move forward? There’s no room for recovery and healing in this scenario.
Don't skip expressing remorse!
If you miss this step you’re likely to suffer more pain and turmoil as the days, the months, and the years go by without real healing and without meaningful trust - for both of you.
But what if I told you it’s possible to start regaining that trust in just a few days? What if I offered you an actual roadmap that would allow you to learn simple ways to express genuine remorse so that your partner felt safe enough to truly begin forgiving?
the key to forgiveness
In my clinical experience, I’ve found that people think the term remorse is just a fancy way to say “I am sorry.” That it’s just semantics. But that’s not how it works in reality.
You’ll recognize this if you’re the hurt partner who has listened to your unfaithful spouse say “I am sorry” for what might feel like a hundred times. But for you, each time feels flat. It doesn’t *feel* connected. And worst of all, it doesn’t allow you to release your resentment and forgive.
If you’re the one apologizing, you may be frustrated by how often this is asked of you. How many times do you need to say it? How can you say it so your partner understands it’s true? That you mean it, that you are deeply sorry?
This is exactly what you’ll learn when you follow the Remorse Blueprint…
Different people respond to expressions of remorse in different ways. Some approaches will work better for one couple, while others will resonate more with another couple. Try out the different tactics and see what works best for you and your partner.
One of the most frustrating parts of surviving infidelity is not knowing what to do next. That’s why I wanted to make sure to include a way for you to develop a plan of how you’ll find your way out and also a vision of what’s possible for your relationship in the future.
This is going to be the cornerstone of your healthy recovery. By adopting my methods you’ll eliminate resentment and position yourself to end the crisis as quickly and effectively as possible so you can both move forward.
We all think we know what forgiveness is, but we have a lot of wrong assumptions about it, what it represents, and how we can give it so we feel relief and peace of mind. Once we understand this we can avoid the common mistakes, pitfalls, and slip-ups that couples face during their recovery.
Meet the therapist
No doubt I am meeting you at a very difficult time. Perhaps the worst time of your lives? Infidelity is life-shattering. It burns up more than just your relationship...it impacts the kids, your family, your friends, your job...your sanity. Nothing seems to escape its flame.
As a licensed couples therapist (LMFT) I specialize in helping men and women survive infidelity. I’ve seen couples pushed to the brink and beyond. I’ve seen couples desperate to move forward but unable to trust again. Couples that feel like they’re stuck on a never-ending rollercoaster of emotion that is out of control and utterly unbearable. I help those couples move forward by learning how to express genuine, believable remorse in an authentic and tangible way.
This is the missing vital step that finally enables the hurt partner (that’s the term I use) to truly accept the betraying partner’s remorse - so that both of you can begin to heal and build a more meaningful foundation of trust. It’s my mission and my passion to help you both take that first vital step toward recovery and relief.
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