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#019: How To De-Escalate Arguments

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Do you know how to de-escalate arguments with your partner? Ever feel like you are constantly pushing the “wrong buttons”? Have no idea where the “right buttons” are? If so, I think you might gain something from this plan of action.

Although you’ve spent years with your partner, you both still have a hard time understanding each other. And, when it comes to arguments you have no idea how to make them stop. Constant arguing makes you feel like you’re regularly defending yourself from being the “villain” in your relationship. I’m sure you’re hoping that after spending years together, your partner would know exactly what you want and need. But unfortunately, your spouse isn’t getting the message and you end up in yet another squabble. I guess until we figure out how to read partners’ minds, we must find another solution to keep each other happy and understood.

If constant arguing makes you vilify each-other, then you need a new plan of action to help you de-escalate and disarm loaded quarrels. When you and your partner start vilifying each other, arguments will rise, both of you will feel misunderstood and needs will become ignored. Most of the time, the main reason for constant arguments and fights in a relationship is due to miscommunication ending up in no resolution and “sweeping the issue under the rug”.

In this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, I help you find out HOW your partner wants to be loved and cared for. I also reveal 3 easy-to-implement tips to de-escalate an argument you can begin using immediately. These effective tips will allow you to tune in with your partner, start understanding one another, gain clarity, and have more loving conversations.

Tune in for a better understanding of how to push the RIGHT buttons and gain positive points with your spouse.

Links mentioned in this episode:

The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman


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I'm an expert on relationships and infidelity recovery. I'm a licensed marriage & family therapist, a podcast host, and the founder of Relationship Experts  - a Couples Therapy & Coaching private practice.

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