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#003: How to Listen & Be Heard

Idit Sharoni

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You know how fights and arguments end, but do you know how they start? The answer lies in your ability to make each-other feel heard. Let’s see how you can better listen and be heard following 8 simple strategies for better listening skills.

“Whose fault is it that we’re fighting so much?” Can’t tell you how many times I got asked this question. My answer is almost always “both of you”. Why? Because the responsibility to be a good listener and a great speaker is of both partners. Not to worry, because this episode is loaded with proven strategies to help couples listen and be heard.

So, in the course of a conversation each one of you holds two responsibilities:

  1. To be a good listener and make your partner feel heard.
  2. To be a good speaker so your partner can respond well.

In this podcast episode How to Listen & Be Heard, we (myself and my wonderful co-host Alina Gershonov) give you 8 strategies to make all the above happen. And guess what, it’s not rocket science! It’s actually human communication science. I say science because everything that we discuss is research-based and has been part of my practice with couples for years. I definitely see a distinctive change in couples relationships when they get their communication to a better place.

Now, I know this episode has a LOT of strategies to be implemented. This might be too much to try out all at once. My suggestion is to pick one or two, to begin with, and be consistent with, and later on, keep adding more. When this becomes part of YOUR language it will feel more natural and definitely more fun to have conversations with your loved one.

Links mentioned in this episode:
The Gottman Institute



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I'm an expert on relationships and infidelity recovery. I'm a licensed marriage & family therapist, a podcast host, and the founder of Relationship Experts  - a Couples Therapy & Coaching private practice.

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