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#032: Answering Your Kids Divorce Questions

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You planned this talk with your kids for a while. You have them all sit down and you say: “Kids, we’re getting a divorce”. Now what?

After the initial shock, a flow of questions comes your way. Why? Is it because of me? Do you still love daddy? Are we going to move? These are just a sample of kids divorce questions when they first learn about their parent’s plans to untie the knot.

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[list-ul type=”arrow2″][li-row]How you answer these questions is of great importance and this episode is all about helping you do just that. We share with you the behind-the-scene thinking that should inform your thoughtful answers.[/li-row][/list-ul]

[list-ul type=”arrow2″][li-row]We tell you how you can learn to understand the emotion or fear that’s behind your child’s questions and relate to it.[/li-row][/list-ul]

[list-ul type=”arrow2″][li-row]And, how you can both normalize your child’s concerns and give them a comforting answer at the same time. [/li-row][/list-ul]

All the planning in the world can’t predict how this conversation will go. This is why we chose not to give you a template or a recipe. Anyway, you can get those online or in the self help book shelve. Instead, we prefer to help you identify where your child’s question is coming from whatever the question may be. Then we want to help you acknowledge it and address the question so that your child feels more secure.

Check out these highlights:

[list-ul type=”arrow2″][li-row]What questions your kids are likely to ask first.[/li-row][/list-ul]

[list-ul type=”arrow2″][li-row]How to handle your child self blaming for the divorce.[/li-row][/list-ul]

[list-ul type=”arrow2″][li-row]We talk about addressing your children’s questions age appropriately (preschool, school age, teenage).[/li-row][/list-ul]

[list-ul type=”arrow2″][li-row]We suggest ways to address less common questions and help you with identifying the feeling that is informing the question.[/li-row][/list-ul]

Hey, I know it’s not an easy task. Probably, one of the most difficult answering you’ve ever had to do. But hopefully, by using our suggestions your kids will feel more understood, more at ease, and okay to ask more, if they need.

If you would like to discuss divorce with a therapist, and if you’re in Aventura, Miami, North Miami Beach, Sunny Isles, Miami Beach or anywhere else in Florida, give me a call at 305-507-9955 or visit iditsharoni.com/contact.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Episode #028: How To Tell Your Kids You’re Divorcing – Your Divorce Talk

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I'm an expert on relationships and infidelity recovery. I'm a licensed marriage & family therapist, a podcast host, and the founder of Relationship Experts  - a Couples Therapy & Coaching private practice.

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