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#016: Staying After Infidelity – Mistake # 2

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I'm a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist based in Miami, a relationship podcast host, and an educator. I help couples transform their patterns of communication and heal after infidelity. 


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How do you know what to ask your unfaithful partner about the affair? How do you make sure the information you get doesn’t cause more harm than good? Learn what are the right transparency questions that will help you heal your relationship after infidelity.

You decided to stay after infidelity and work on relationship building. But then come the sleepless nights, the flashbacks, and the constant need to know. Sometimes you get up and ask your partner other times you keep your terror to yourself. Slowly but surely, resentment and feelings of anger surface and you doubt if you can continue to do this. Sometimes, a certain type of answer just can’t leave your mind leaving you with worse flashbacks. Now is the time to learn what are the right transparency questions that’ll help you heal.

No doubt, you’re wondering the following:

  1. Why it happened
  2. What exactly went down/ How/ When/ Etc.?
  3. Was there emotional or sexual involvement?
  4. Is it really over?

This is a perfectly normal reaction after infidelity. You need to know what happened there, but you also need to know what to ask so you don’t end up in worse emotional pain. In this episode, I stress how important it is for the betraying partner to create transparency as a way to increase trust. I also share about the importance of gaining access to the unfaithful partner’s inner world as a step towards healing.

What’s in it for you?

To make things easier for you, I’ve created a free guide “Staying After Infidelity: Mistake # 2 Worksheet” to help you sort the right questions from the wrong ones. In the worksheet, I explain which questions get you what information. I also added a simple method to sort all your questions into 3 main categories. That way, it is easier to choose the ones that will get you clarity, transparency, and overall sense of healing.

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This episode from the series “Staying After Infidelity Mistakes” is all about getting information that is going to benefit you in rebuilding your relationship and avoiding harmful information to push you backward. I explore possible scenarios of conversations and their benefits, as well as potentially harmful conversations that can damage the relationship’s healing.

I’m very excited to share this episode and freebie with you.

Stay tuned!

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Access to Idit’s private Facebook group: It’s Okay To Stay



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I'm an expert on relationships and infidelity recovery. I'm a licensed marriage & family therapist, a podcast host, and the founder of Relationship Experts  - a Couples Therapy & Coaching private practice.

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