AFFAIR COUNSELING CAN RESTORE YOUR MARRIAGE
For many couples, navigating the healing process alone can be fraught with emotional challenges. More often than not, couples either bury unresolved emotions or rush through the healing process, skipping crucial steps that only further damage the relationship. Working with a marriage counselor provides you with a structured healing process that ensures you go through each step of the process and heal. It gives you a place to tell your story and process your pain. Recovering from an affair isn’t something that happens overnight, but in time, you can heal yourself and repair your relationship.
My approach to affair recovery is ultimately focused on helping you move from crisis to understanding and reconnecting, and finally, to experiencing a loving and trusting relationship.
I draw inspiration from and use the methods of Dr. John Gottman and Esther Perel to create a structured roadmap for healing that addresses your unique situation and needs.
>> The first phase of the healing process begins with us “Rebalancing” the context of your crisis. After initially finding out about infidelity, it is understandable to be overwhelmed with intense emotions and even despair. So, our initial focus will be reinforcing stability and personal balance so that you can gain clarity and alleviate some of the immediate distress.
>> In the second phase, or the “Reattachment” phase, we will work on ways to bridge the disconnect between you and your partner so that certain important conversations can be had. In this stage, we will explore the meaning of the infidelity by answering the question “Why did this happen?”. We might also explore how infidelity has impacted your health, your marriage, the children or the other party’s family. The goal is for you to be able to communicate with each other deeply and productively so you can have a clear understanding of this complex situation.
>> In the final phase, “Restart,” we will concentrate on beginning your relationship anew. We might discuss how to set healthy relationship boundaries or new rules and expectations for your partnership. And, we will look at ways of eventually regaining intimacy in your marriage.
I understand that you are in a lot of pain right now, but healing is possible and so is saving your marriage. Most couples stay together after infidelity, and those who go through affair counseling and heal frequently report that their relationship became stronger than ever. In fact, learning how to communicate honestly and resolve conflict peacefully often makes a couple’s marriage healthier. In time, you can learn to trust again and move forward with your lives.